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Dating and Courting Should Never End: 7 Ways to Keep Your Courtship Alive

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A relationship is like any other living thing.  It takes nurturing  for it to reach its full potential. In your relationship,by incorporating dating and courting into the things you do together. This way, you can keep that “spark” alive that helped start your relationship, nurturing it into a glowing ember.

Dating and Courting Tip #1:  Date Night!

You’ve probably heard of couples going out on “date night.” It may sound cliché, but being able to spend time together strengthens the bond between couples. In fact, according to a research study by the National Marriage Project, spending time just as a couple meant, “higher relationship quality.” The study notes five components for  a successful date night:

  • Communication
  • Novelty
  • Eros
  • Commitment
  • De-stress

Including these factors into your date night can contribute to successful courtship.

Dating and Courting Tip #2:  Include Adventure

One of the components in a successful date night that may be overlooked is novelty. Do you and your partner find yourselves always going to the same restaurant or the movie theater? Why not mix it up and try something different? You needn’t to go crazy like sky-diving or bungee-jumping. Instead, venture out and explore your community to see what opportunities are available. Is there a local amusement park where you can go act like kids again?

Dating and Courting Tip #3:  Learn Something New

Learning is fun!  It also is a chance for you, as a couple, to have a new experience together. Consider attending a lecture or presentation at your local college or university. Find a passion hobby you both enjoy. Partner yoga, martial arts, skiing, or bouldering are a few examples. Perhaps you could spend some time at Barnes and Noble finding a book you would enjoy reading together at a park on a blanket. We recommend The Gift of The Red Bird

Dating and Courting Tip #4:  Show Your Appreciation

It’s easy to get distracted with all of the demands placed on us. Often we may forget how much we love and appreciate our partner. Showing your appreciation is something you can and ought to do every day. There are several ways you can show your appreciation to your partner, such as:

  • Leaving a handwritten note.
  • Doing something nice.
  • Bringing home a small gift, such as flowers.

Even a simple hug can go a long way towards showing your appreciation to your partner. Find out what yours and your spouses love language is and figure out ways to speak to that!

Dating and Courting Tip #5:  Be Creative

Do you have a creative talent such as painting, writing, photography, or crafting? A great way to maintain the courtship in your relationship is to make something for your partner. It’s not just the gift that counts. Putting the time and energy into a project just for your partner can be especially meaningful.

Dating and Courting Tip #6:  Listen

When you were dating and courting your partner, hopefully you took the time to listen to what they had to say. Whether it was a personal concern, or their outlook on life, you wanted to be there for your partner and show that you cared. That still matters, no matter what stage of the courtship you find yourselves, from the first date to the 1,000th date.

Dating and Courting Tip #7:  Say “I love you.”

Nothing is as simple or as impactful as saying, “I love you.”
Those three words can have an extremely positive impact on your relationship. They never get old, and reinforces that you care about your partner. Have you told them, “I love you” today?
Dating and courting doesn’t have to end. It is actually part of the process of growing together as a couple and maintaining a long-lasting relationship. By spending quality time together, showing that you care for your partner, being willing to listen, and expressing your love, you can strengthen your relationship daily. You can be married for fifty years, and still keep the courtship alive.  

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