When dealing with infidelity, there is a clear way to navigate the confusion and emotional turmoil. Even though every situation is different, there are steps that can be taken to ensure you are safe. Working with a trained professional at Integrated Counseling and Wellness will be beneficial when dealing with infidelity.
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The first consideration for you and your family is to determine whether you are safe in your current living situation. According to the U.S. Center for Disease Control (CDC), unstable and or unhealthy marriage relationships can be a contributing factor to the likelihood of intimate partner violence. Consider finding a safe place for you as well as your child/chidren if your spouse/partner is at home. If necessary, take legal action and file a restraining order, to ensure your safety.
Emotions Are Okay
It is important to allow yourself to feel the emotions that arise when learning of your spouse’s/partner’s infidelity. Keeping emotions of anger, sadness and lack of trust inside can be detrimental to you mental well being. Seek out a therapist who is trained in marriage counseling to help deal and process the infedelity you are dealing with. The infidelity of a spouse can be a traumatic experience for anyone to face. The act can trigger emotions for yourself and your children. However, it is something you can get through, providing you have the support in place to make the best decisions you can.
Watch for Feelings of Depression
Discovering that your spouse/partner has been unfaithful can certainly be the starting point for depression. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, some warning signs of depression can include:
- Lack of interest in things that once brought you joy
- Negative outlook on life
- Having trouble sleeping
- Eating too much
- Feeling constantly fatigued
Also, be aware of your use of alcohol or drugs, as these can contribute to depression, which will negatively add to your experience.
MAINTAIN A ROUTINE
Your world has just been turned upside down, so, as much as possible, try to maintain a daily routine. The continuity can help address the disruption in your life that has been caused by the infidelity. Try these things:
- Keep your morning routine, such as making a hot beverage, reading, or exercising.
- Don’t cancel important appointments, such as doctor’s visits.
- Even though you may have to take some time off from work or rearrange your work schedule, don’t make major changes with your job. Fulfill your work commitments.
- Spend time with your children.
- Continue doing the things that you enjoy, such as hobbies, recreational activities, etc